There’s a healthy balance between wanting complements and needing complements. Of course, ladies, we try our very best to look nice, especially when trying to impress someone. Those are the times when we really hope someone will call us beautiful, because of our effort!
Other times, we can look at someone and think ‘She is so effortlessly beautiful…it’s not fair!’. This is unhealthy and dangerous. It draws the focus too closely onto ourselves and what our flaws are. In actual fact, portraying confidence and happiness with who you are, whether you’ve spent hours preparing for a fancy dinner or if you just got up out of bed, beauty is internal!
I know how it feels to think you’re not beautiful. I often catch myself with those thoughts and end up feeling dreadful about myself. It’s because I compare myself with others. “She gets complimented all the time and she doesn’t even realise how lucky she is!” “She doesn’t even try with her hair…I try really hard” etc etc
As you can see, that isn’t making me feel good at ALL. I am confident that every girl, no matter who they are, goes through these same thought processes every now and then.
But the main thing to remember is that it shouldn’t rely upon how many people compliment you or even the clothes that you wear. Material and external beauty is fleeting, as sad as it is to admit that. Miranda Kerr will not always look the way she does.
The bright side is that someone who practices happiness, kindness, grace, love and compassion will remain beautiful forever. Whether they’re 18 or 80, people will recognise something truly extraordinary within them, like a diamond in the water.
So…my friends…if you need to feel beautiful, you should. Because you are.
“Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one out there more youer than you!” – Dr. Seuss
And you ARE beautiful.
Always,
Alice
Everything is Dandy 